Solo Safety & Hidden Home & Travel Risks
The Unseen Security Risks for Older Solo Dwellers & Travelers
Living alone and traveling solo in our later years offers immense independence, self-discovery, and the freedom to pursue our passions. Whether it's the comforting solitude of our own home or the thrill of exploring a new destination, these choices are incredibly empowering. However, it's crucial to acknowledge that with this cherished independence comes a heightened awareness of certain security-related risks. The unsettling truth is that many of these vulnerabilities aren't unique to foreign travel; they exist within the familiar walls of our homes as well.
We often associate risks with random chance, but for older single individuals, there can be a perceived vulnerability that draws unwanted attention. We don't need to look for sinister motives from strangers to understand this, but rather acknowledge how a lack of immediate backup can be exploited.
The tragic case of the Pettit family (Google This) serves as a stark reminder of how unforeseen circumstances and perceived vulnerability can be exploited, even within the presumed safety of one's own residence.
Let's explore some of the key security and exploitation risks associated with both living alone and traveling alone as we age:
At Home and Away: Shared Security Vulnerabilities
Exploitation of Vulnerability: For single individuals, the lack of a visible second person can be perceived as an opportunity. This could involve sophisticated scams, high-pressure tactics from salespeople attempting to gain access or financial information, or even being taken advantage of by individuals offering unsolicited "help." When traveling, being unfamiliar with local customs and lacking an immediate support network can unfortunately increase this susceptibility to various forms of exploitation, from overcharging to more insidious forms of targeting.
Sudden Exposure to Threats: While less common, the risk of unexpected encounters with individuals seeking to exploit a situation is present both at home and abroad. Being alone means there's no immediate witness or helper if you are confronted.
Increased Exposure as a Single Homeowner
While some security risks are universal, single homeowners, particularly as they age, face unique exposures within their own residence. The very independence that's cherished can inadvertently create opportunities for concern.
Home Services & Deliveries: Consider the frequent interactions required for maintaining a home. Delivery of large appliances and furniture, or engaging contractors for repairs (plumbers, electricians, handymen), often involves letting strangers into your personal space. These services frequently utilize contracted day labor or individuals who may not be full-time, long-term, or thoroughly vetted employees of the company you hired. While most are reputable, some individuals might be experiencing personal struggles, including substance abuse, which could compromise their judgment, professionalism, or trustworthiness. There have been reports of individuals posing as delivery or service workers to gain access for illicit purposes, or taking advantage once inside.
Helpers and Subcontractors: When you hire a contractor for a larger job, they often bring helpers or subcontractors whom you haven't personally vetted. While the main contractor should be responsible for their team, a single homeowner might find themselves interacting directly with multiple individuals whose backgrounds are unknown. The risk here extends beyond just criminal intent to potential unprofessional behavior, negligence, or even petty theft if items are left unsecured.
Neighborhood Youth: Sadly, older single homeowners can sometimes become targets for neighborhood youth engaging in pranks, vandalism, or in more concerning situations, harassment. A house where only one older person resides might be perceived as an easier target for mischief or or, in unfortunate cases, more aggressive acts, leading to property damage, psychological distress, and a feeling of insecurity in one's own home.
Mitigating Risks: Proactive Steps for Solo Living and Travel
The good news is that there are numerous proactive steps we can take to mitigate these risks and continue enjoying our independence with greater security:
Enhanced Home Security Measures: This is paramount, even when you feel safe. Always lock all doors and windows, even if you're just stepping out for a moment or are home during the day.Remember the tragic incident in Florida, where a woman mopping her floor in her own home was assaulted by an intruder who simply walked in. This underscores that vulnerability isn't just a nighttime concern. Arm your security system, even during the daytime, when you are home. It provides an invaluable extra layer of defense and can deter potential intruders.
Early Warning Systems: While not a primary defensive measure, having a dog can be an invaluable early warning system. Their barks can alert you to an unexpected presence at the door or property line, giving you precious moments to react, assess the situation, and potentially seek immediate help, rather than being caught completely unaware.
Personal Defense Considerations (If Choosing to Own a Firearm):
For those who choose to own a firearm for self-defense, it is absolutely critical to obtain proper training from certified instructors and to thoroughly understand the laws regarding self-defense, firearm use, and storage in your jurisdiction.
Remember that just because you may legally be able to use force in a given situation, it does not mean you should use force if it is not absolutely required or if less extreme measures would suffice. Discretion and de-escalation are always preferred.
Crucially, when at home or traveling, never sleep with a gun within arm's reach, such as under a pillow or on a nightstand immediately beside the bed. In a startled state, it's easy to make a critical error.
A safer practice is to store your firearm securely, yet accessibly, for example, on the floor on the far side of the bed from the bedroom door. In the same location, you should also have a powerful flashlight and your fully charged cellphone.
This strategic placement allows that, should you be made aware of an intruder (perhaps by your dog or an alarm), you can barricade yourself in your bedroom, ideally behind the bed for cover, immediately call the police, and then utilize your flashlight to disorient and identify, and your firearm as required only if absolutely necessary for self-defense.
Vetting Home Services Thoroughly:
For deliveries, schedule them when a trusted friend, family member, or neighbor can be present, if possible. Consider using locked package delivery boxes or opting for in-store pickup where available.
For contractors and service providers, always get multiple quotes and check references thoroughly. Verify licenses and insurance. Use reputable companies that conduct background checks on their employees. Never pay cash upfront or the full amount before work is completed.
When workers are in your home, secure valuables and consider having a trusted individual present, if possible.
Travel Preparedness: Before traveling, inform a trusted contact of your detailed itinerary and check in regularly. Share accommodation details. Research local emergency services and emergency contacts for your travel destination and accommodation.
Communication and Connection: Whether at home or traveling, stay connected with friends, family, and neighbors. Schedule regular check-ins. Let someone know your plans. Establishing a "buddy system" with a trusted friend or family member for home visits or daily check-ins can add an extra layer of security.
Technology as an Ally: Utilize technology such as smartphones with emergency SOS features, location-sharing apps (with trusted contacts), and smart home devices (like video doorbells, smart locks, and security cameras) that can alert you to visitors and even deter unwanted attention. These tools provide remote monitoring and a sense of control.
Trust Your Intuition and Be Assertive: If a situation feels unsafe or uncomfortable, remove yourself from it. Whether at home or traveling, your gut feeling can be a valuable safety tool. Don't feel obligated to open your door to unexpected visitors or allow entry to anyone you don't feel comfortable with, even if they claim to be from a utility company – always verify their identity and reason for visit before opening your door. Be assertive in setting boundaries.
Summary
Living alone and traveling solo as we age offers incredible freedom and opportunity. By acknowledging the specific security risks, including those unique to single homeownership, and taking proactive steps to mitigate them, we can continue to embrace our independence with greater confidence and peace of mind, both in the comfort of our own homes and while exploring the world.